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Council on Aging for Southeastern Vermont
SENIOR HELP LINE 1-800-642-5119                                              June 2004 , V.1 Issue 9



SHARE THE CARE: Good Old Fashion Common Sense that Works for Staying Healthy in Today's World.

Quotes from Share the Care

"A key in 'Share the Care' is you identify the connection to the person. Kaye herself believes it will work and is willing to let it work. Then there is Bethany and Asa's belief and their willingness to ask people to be involved. That tactic helped people to understand it is not a tragic or hopeless situation. Instead of not knowing how they can help, they hear what jobs are needed and equally important, have a right to say no."
-Rev. Linda Carlson
Jackson Citizen Patriot


"I learned the 'facts of life'...that we will die. Somehow it isn't as frightening as it was. And that if we ask for help, it's there. And though we may feel alone, if we have courage to let others in, others will be there."
-M. Schreibman

Remember when your parents took you to visit Gramma. Chances are that you visited with Great Gramma or Aunt Maude on those occasions too. That was because Great Gramma or Aunt Maude lived with your Gramma because they needed a caregiver.

It is no surprise that extended family living has declined. The surprise is that our nation is just recognizing the family as a caregiving resource.
In the book, Share the Care, by Sheila Warnock and Cappy Capossela, the concept of friends sharing the care of a loved one gives family caregiving a new twist for present day living.

A group of unrelated friends form a family unit of caregivers to give care to a seriously ill single mom without close family nearby. They all take turns performing the tasks that are needed so that no one person is doing it all. Much like a family dividing up their household chores. Each member takes on a task they can do best. In that way, the loved one is well cared for without overwhelming any one person.

Yes, those that can perform more take on more and those who can't don't. But this is true of any family.
Many caregivers will identify with "Susan's Funny Family" in this book.

Helping professionals will be uplifted to know there is a way to assist overwhelmed and burnt out caregivers. However, caregivers need to believe it will work for them.
In "Susan's Funny Family " there was no other choice. Susan was in crisis. For many caregivers, a crisis may make them believers of the Share the Care concept.
If you are an overwhelmed caregiver making a choice between caring for your loved one at home or placing them in a facility please read Share the Care. It may open up other possibilities. In some cases, it may supplement existing home health or hospice services. It will be provided by unpaid friends who care enough to want to make a difference in your life. Talk to your loved one, if possible, to see if this would be something they would accept.

This is a true family of friends, creating a healthier life for both caregiver and those needing care. An unexpected gift is the bond of supportive and encouragement each gives to the other in their caregiving role.


Reagan's Death Brings Attention to Alzheimer's Disease

Nancy Reagan's love for her husband may be the catalyst that brings more money and research to fight the cause of Alzheimer's Disease.
Surely the death of a president suffering from Alzheimer's will produce attention and advances towards a cure for this disease that will help the masses of ordinary people still afflicted.

While our current President is caught up in the duties of protecting our homeland from terrorists here and abroad, the quiet death of a past president may give new hope to families facing the realities of life with a loved one afflicted with Alzheimer's disease.

The battles are similar in nature if not scope. Both battling for the safety and protection of our loved ones' lives. Soldiers are ordered to battle abroad, while families and caregivers battle daily in the home to stay the ravages of this life altering disease. Billions of dollars are spent and lost trying to fight off the advances of both opponents. Many die without knowing whether or not their sacrifice made a difference in the quality of life for others. Loved ones in both battles mourn their losses.

Nancy Reagan's love for her husband and the end of a President's long journey might be the peaceful answer for caregivers worldwide.

Researchers need money and support to continue working toward a cure and to develop new effective drugs that will slow down the progression of this disease.

Let us all hope that Nancy Reagan's love for her husband continues to ignite a burning desire to find an end to Alzheimer's Disease in the memory of Ronald Reagan and all others that suffer the same affliction.

Nancy Reagan Quote

" Ronnie's long journey has finally taken him to a distant place where I can no longer reach him. Because of this I'm determined to do whatever I can to save other families from this pain."


Resources

Visit the Share the Care Website at:
www.sharethecare.org

"Family is not always defined by blood or marriage, but more often by love and commitment to each other" E. Farrow Savos- daughter of Susan.


Alzheimer's Association of Vermont and New Hampshire
P.O.Box 1139
Montpelier, VT 05601
www.alz.org/vtnh
1-802-229-1022
Or
1-800-536-8864

 

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